So off-putting for both partners. The weird thing is I still love the person she once was before bipolar took hold of her.She thinks she is normal and bipolar almost makes her feel invincible. I have bipolar disorder and I get sick regularly. There are just certain things that you should never say to someone with bipolar disorder. Reply. I’m not talking about this kind of anger. When pleasurable pastimes like shopping, gaming, or online socializing cross the line from enjoyable to excessive, it may be time to tame your overindulgences. he lashed out at me, saying hurtful things or blaming me for thinking that he needed help, and even got aggressive at times- … Remember that someone who has bipolar disorder is still entitled to a personality I feel like she should be taking something along with it because she still has a sassy mouth and says hurtful things to people. They’re just saying what they think they’re supposed to say. The black and white is so hard. I am bipolar, and am going through constant therapy to help me cope with my condition. She was diagnosed late fall shes 25 but acts like a 13 year old. —Destiny Kruse via Facebook 15. I keep thinking that a combo of open communication and DBT could go a long way with this, but it's hard to know without the second one. Subscribe 25 Things Only Someone with Bipolar Disorder … Hi my name is Russ I’m from the uk.I believe my my wife has severe bipolar.Over my 17 year relationship her behaviour became more erratic. I’ve had it happen to me too many times to count but also seen it happen with others (“I never said that!?!”). Omg yes my ex had entirely different perception of conversations we had. Bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder have some symptoms in common, but are two very different diseases. Thank you for sharing. If you have bipolar disorder, someone has likely said at least one of these things to you. Great article I really now know now my roomate/friend is bipolor mania! I have bipolar disorder and I know that my mood leaks into everyday life, no matter how much I don’t want it. Yes, thank you for sharing. Spending hours on a video game. But for some reason if someone pinches your nose that entire At least that one was funny and not sad. I am bipolar and when I am in a bad mood, I tend to say things I don't mean a lot; I guess I could even say I'm verbally abusive to my parents, mainly my mother. He cancelled our plans due to his mood, said some pretty hurtful things to me, and about five hours later, texted me saying, “I’m sorry, I think I may be bipolar”. This causes a lot of stress in my brain and I react with negative thoughts. Does your SO quote you saying things you haven't said, or mishear what you've said significantly? Maybe this is why I've made a habit of writing things down shortly after they're said, some protection against my own rumination rewrite or my SO's. I enthusiastically reached out to people to apologize and rebuild relationships, but their reactions weren’t always what I expected. I can relate to much of what you're saying. Overall, it's always perceived/imagined criticism. Fast Negative thoughts can be a normal part of bipolar disorder depression.. I think it’s possible you said one thing that she perceived a certain way and now remembers you saying it the way she took it. but that part of my mind just isnt there at that time. I know it’s hard to understand when someone with bipolar is screaming obscenities and saying hurtful things to you, but it’s really not aimed at you in particular. I acted on these thoughts for years before I was diagnosed. 8. My SO has forgotten things said in a rage or depression, or insisted I said big hurtful things or critical things that I did not say. Something strikes a nerve and opens the floodgates for all types of pain. Thanks for sharing. Esp after he takes his meds at night. I wrote down all of my behaviors and eventually determined what was the real me and what was the bipolar disorder. Stigma stings, but when it happens in your own backyard—our own families and friends not accepting us—it is especially hard to take. Sometimes they say things that are really mean and hurtful and can upset people. My brain still races all night and tells me mean things when I feel someone has done me wrong,  but it’s often just bipolar talking. That failed spectacularly and it turned into a big argument. Looking back, I wonder whether the depression and anger outbursts were actually the early stages of my bipolar disorder. Anyone who has bipolar disorder would agree that there are many bad things that the disorder causes for them; such as: having to take medication every day for the rest of their lives, having to change their whole lifestyle to accommodate the disorder, having to go see doctors and therapists and psychiatrists, etc. During anger outbursts the person may say and do things that ordinarily they wouldn't say or do (for example, saying And sometimes she abandoned her kids. Eli Lilly Reintegration Achievement Award. Since then things have got even worse.I have spoken to her doctor as she once tried over dosing on tablets and often talked about killing herself.The doctor was concerned and rang child services.After doing this she did not let me see my children for 4 months and the kids have received councillors support from the school.After reporting her she contacted the police and said I was stalking her and harassing her.Needless too say no further action was taken. They weren't hurtful things at all but he brought it up and used it against me. ~ Kay Redfield Jamison "When I taught writing classes to psychiatric patients, I met people whose stories of manic highs and immobilizing lows appeared to be textbook descriptions of classic bipolar disorder. They don't listen to others about episodes. Usually it isn't so much hearing things I didn't say, though that occasionally happens. There are things I never would have considered to be part of bipolar disorder until I hear from others. Hoping you guys have a good week. I still want to kick things and yell at people,  but I can’t give in to it now. Thank you for sharing. For example, I can be sleeping, wake up at 10 o’clock at night, and clean the entire house, top to bottom. I spent a lot of time last night thinking about how scary this would be for the partner with BP, to not know what was real. Thank you for taking the time to reply. “I feel so bipolar today.” Bipolar disorder isn’t a joke. And obviously, if you have an illness, whether it be bipolar disorder or any illness, you’ve got to figure out how that will impact your ability to raise a child, et cetera. Bipolar disorder symptoms can make you seem mean and nasty; determining what actions stem from bipolar disorder mood swings can help. Religiously checking Facebook. Being in a relationship where one or both partners have bipolar disorder is not easy. I try to keep them inside and when they do come out during a down swing, I apologize. Don't let the disorder rob you of your closest relationships. Press J to jump to the feed. People with Bipolar Disorder engage in what I consider “serial lying.” However, Bipolar Disorder and lying is a complex and nuanced issue and I hope you will keep reading to discover some of the factors that drive this apparent lack of honesty. I'm not entirely sure. 7. Again we sorted things out after about 3 months.Things were okay for about a year but she used to go in her room on her phone every chance she had.The nasty behaviour stated again saying I was bad with money,when she was spending £1000s on her self ie sleeve of tattoos tattooed eyebrows and eye lashes also wanted boob job and bought a sports car. But when discrimination comes from those we consider to be part of our inner circle—friends, family, co-workers, fellow worshipers, others we’d hope... Download bp's latest issue instantly to your tablet or smartphone. We know that they probably won't take it … He started a fight with me and he brought up things that I had said in past conversations. I currently live in a city that has out of control growth. I let things go until a few days ago when he said such mean things that I walked out and told him he will never do this again and I never want to see him Mental Health - Bipolar Disorder: Bf's Hurtful Words - Please Help Me Was it the bp or his abuse of alcohol and weed? This happens in a lot of relationships bp or not. All rights reserved. About a year and a half ago, I was diagnosed. People with bipolar disorder and their loved ones sometimes report a tendency to say things that others may consider lies. It’s a struggle,  but I don’t do it! 5. I mean, that's what - that whole oversharing thing is really a very clear symptom of bipolar disorder. I can't tell you how many times that verse has gone through my head, since my husband was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder II, superimposed with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. He also seemed very sensitive to perceived criticism. Bipolar disorder is not an excuse for hurting another person. Some times she twists things around in her head and puts meaning behind things that have no meaning. Truth is, most people can say they’ve been there, done that. But I had, and I know I did because I really didn’t want to hurt his feelings. If a person can’t formulate consent and they can’t formulate intentionality they are not culpable. Likewise, saying things that ignore or make light of someone’s sense of self-esteem should be avoided. I'm curious about how common this is, the mishearing, the fabricating of negative statements. Bipolar disorder is a category that includes three different conditions — bipolar I, bipolar II and cyclothymic disorder. as things progressively got worse, i convinced him to see a doctor where they told me his diagnosis. Both family members have remembered entirely fabricated sentences. I was talking to my mom on the phone about wedding plans. It started in high school, so my parents saw this behavior as me being a “typical teenager.” Negative thoughts can be a normal part of bipolar disorder depression. “Once you realized you are loved, things will be better.” “‘You just need to realize you are loved and you will be better.’ Little If no one asks you to work backwards in your own timeline, you can't figure out those patterns.” 4. When your boyfriend continues to say hurtful things, you'll have to decide when you've had enough. Thank you for replying. The lives of those suffering from it are hugely impacted by it. Often well-meaning people say hurtful things because they’re at a loss for words. Turns out, I have bipolar II disorder. Bipolar disorder sometimes is called manic-depressive disorder or manic depression, which are older terms. I never realized that I caused some of the problems. I remember walking down 59th street in New York City, near Central Park. Thanks for your thoughtful writings. I hope this is something you guys can get to a better place with over time. It’s a real, diagnosable mental health disorder, and those who live with it aren’t just bipolar on certain days. I had to write my own treatment plan in order to get better. Logically I know it doesn't make sense, but saying 'you shouldn't feel that way' doesn't work on anyone ever." This sub is a place that people can come for advice or just to vent so that we do not affect our significant others with our emotions. Some people with bipolar disorder end up in jail because of this symptom. Who is anyone else ever to say that someone is “using Bipolar Disorder as an excuse” It’s not an excuse but it is a reason. I have since learned that I am the only one responsible for my actions no matter what the case. “I Thanks for taking the time to reply. Abuse is never neat, but in a relationship in which one person is bipolar, it can be even messier and hard to recognize. I've been a follower here for a long time, but i never thought I would have to make a post, but here it goes. Bipolar II is the less extreme, more common version of the disorder. Those... After my diagnosis, I was excited to have an answer for some of my past behaviors and mistakes. it has severe effects on my life that I resent. There are some dangers inherent in bipolar disorder that make it more likely you'll do harmful things to yourself or be intimidated into letting medical personnel give you inadequate or even improper treatment. When you become depressed, you may feel sad or hopeless and lose interest or pleasure in most activities. Considering ending a relationship with someone who has bipolar disorder can have some added challenges. It’s important to understand the difference between borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder, in order to help yourself or someone you love get the right treatment. I truly try to step back and think before I do something stupid. People with hypomania are … Before I had bipolar disorder, I was outgoing, happy-go-lucky and quick-witted. Just an example. I have to stay stable in order to be the nice person I know I am inside. Stigma, no matter where it comes from, is insensitive and dehumanizing. It is the signature line of Dr. House on TV, and you can even buy a t-shirt with the saying, “Everybody lies”. Nothing was ever good enough. Also, the person may say and do unusual or hurtful things. Bipolar II is the less extreme, more common version of the disorder. My irritation and nasty meanness is attached to a mood swing. #10 You seem a little overly enthusiastic. 100% with my SO, it’s most typically a mix of reading (lots of) things into words of others and adding/translating in the moment. For 15 years I was a #@$%*! Last night I said "it would be three, no?" It can cause unusual, often extreme and fluctuating changes in mood, energy, activity, and concentration or focus. 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